My Life. My Struggle. My Healing.

May 20, 2026

Trauma is something that never fully disappears. You learn ways to cope, to survive, and to heal, but the effects can still live in your mind, body, and heart long after the pain first happened.

Since my arrest, I’ve been actively trying to heal from trauma, from the lies, the actions, and the words spoken by people who once promised to love and protect me. Some days are still incredibly hard. Healing is not linear, and there are moments when the weight of everything still feels heavy. But slowly, I am learning to love myself again.

I’m discovering who I am outside of the titles I carried for so long. I’m not just someone’s ex-wife. I’m not only my children’s mother. I am a 33-year-old woman learning how to truly live life for the first time too. I’m learning to find joy, peace, and happiness in even the smallest moments.

That’s what I want to encourage you to do too. Find the good in every situation, even when life feels unfair. Every second, minute, and hour teaches you something. Some lessons help you grow stronger. Some teach you where joy can still exist. Others teach you what no longer deserves access to your peace.

One of the first things I started doing during my healing journey was writing down things I liked about myself. At first, it felt uncomfortable because trauma can make you forget your own worth. But over time, it helped me reconnect with who I really am.

So today, I encourage you to do the same.

Buy a journal, or grab one sitting in a drawer somewhere, and write down:
• 10 things you like about yourself
• 10 things you enjoy doing

Not things connected to your family, your relationship, or your children. Things that belong to YOU.

And don’t feel selfish for taking time to love yourself. Learning to care for yourself benefits everyone around you, especially your children and family. When you begin healing, you show up differently. You begin seeing life differently.

That doesn’t mean the dark days disappear completely. Healing still comes with hard moments. Trauma has a way of making you question people, question yourself, and struggle with trust because you allowed people into your life who damaged parts of you deeply.

But self-love teaches something important: when you learn to love yourself, you begin to trust yourself again.

And that’s where healing truly begins.

Love always,

Kelsey