My Life. My Struggle. My Healing.

June 2nd, 2026

Have you ever had someone you love say things that hurt you deeply?

I lived that nightmare for almost my entire life. People who claimed to love me said things that stayed with me for years. I can still remember so many of the hurtful words spoken to me. Like the time in high school when my first boyfriend told me my best friend’s death was my fault, even though I wasn’t even there when the accident happened. Or when my physically abusive boyfriend at 19, told me that if I wasn’t “such a b,” I wouldn’t get cheated on all the time. Or the time my husband handed me his ring and told me to start collecting them because I didn’t deserve to be loved.

You don’t realize how much those words follow you through life until you begin healing from them. But through all of it, I’ve learned to be kinder to people because you never truly know what someone is carrying. It’s taught me to lead with compassion and care for others.

Part of my healing journey has been learning that when someone truly loves you, they do not constantly hurt you or tear you down. They lift you up. They remind you of your worth. They cherish you.

My friends have become one of the biggest parts of my healing journey. I’ve surrounded myself with people who genuinely love me and want to see me succeed. And anyone who actively harms me or tears me down, I’ve removed from my life.

That’s what I encourage you to do too. If someone is constantly hurtful, harmful, overly critical, or abusive in any way, do not keep giving them access to you. Some people simply do not change, no matter how much love you give them.

Hold onto the people who love you, care for you, and treat you with kindness. Let go of the ones who don’t.

Take a moment to think about words that have been spoken over you that still hurt today. Write them down honestly, no matter how painful they are to revisit. Then, beside each hurtful statement, write what is actually true about you.

Let’s keep moving forward.

Love always,

Kelsey