My Life. My Struggle. My Healing.

June 3rd, 2026

Are you the type of person who constantly feels less than?

For a long time, I was.

I never realized how important self-love was when it came to healing from the things in life that broke me. One of the most damaging effects of abuse and trauma is that it slowly tears down your sense of self. You can be beaten down so much emotionally and mentally that you no longer recognize yourself, and eventually, you stop loving yourself too.

Learning to love yourself again is a crucial part of healing. You have to step into self-love to become the person God created you to be. Now, I’m not saying I’ve completely mastered self-love. I’m still growing. But I can honestly say I’m in a much better place than I was just a few months ago. And when I talk about self-love, I’m not primarily talking about appearances. Loving the way you look is important, but that’s not the heart of it. Real self-love starts much deeper. Although I will say this—when you begin loving yourself from the inside, it often starts showing on the outside too.

In a previous post, I talked about how important journaling has been in my healing journey. One activity I shared was writing down ten things you love about yourself or ten things you enjoy doing that aren’t connected to your family or your responsibilities. That simple exercise helped me begin rebuilding my sense of value and identity.

Another thing that helped was surrounding myself with people who could see the good in me when I couldn’t see it myself. They reminded me of my worth. They spoke life into me. They encouraged me. Having people around you who genuinely love you, support you, and want to see you succeed is essential when you’re healing your self-worth.

Since beginning this healing journey, I’ve learned so much about myself. I’ve discovered that I’m actually very feminine. I love dresses. I love having long hair. I enjoy makeup and embracing my girly side. When I was actively living through trauma and abuse, I didn’t enjoy those things at all. It’s amazing how much trauma can disconnect you from who you truly are.

You see videos all over TikTok about how women “start looking pink again” when they heal. As funny as that sounds, it’s been true for me. Just a few months ago, I hated pink. Now I absolutely love it. To me, pink represents femininity, softness, and joy.

Of course, your healing journey may look different than mine. The important thing is finding things that help you reconnect with yourself. For me, dressing up, getting my nails done, spending time with friends, and doing things simply because I enjoy them have all helped me rebuild my self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence.

Most importantly, God.

I will always give glory to God because none of this healing would be possible without Him. When you spend time in God’s Word, you begin to understand how deeply He loves you. You see how He values women, protects them, hears them, and answers their prayers. You begin to realize that being a woman is not a burden—it’s a gift. It’s beautiful.

A relationship with God changes your perspective. You begin to understand that you are worthy of love because God loves you. He loved you so much that He sent His only Son to die for you. That kind of love changes everything.

If I could give any advice, it would be this:

Start with God. Build your relationship with Him. Trust Him. Pray to Him. Spend time in His Word.

Then start finding things that bring you joy.

Buy the dress. Dye your hair. Get the shoes. Go out to eat with your friends. Take the trip. Laugh. Laugh a lot. Laughter is healing.

Find simple ways to build your self-love, your self-worth, and your confidence. Because when you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, everything starts to change. You’ll find peace. You’ll find joy. And you’ll discover that you were worth loving all along.