Dear Reader,

July 29th, 2026

First, I’d like to apologize for not posting as much lately. Life has been changing, and I’ve been trying to let God lead me in when to write. Instead of posting just to post, I want to write when I feel like there’s a lesson in my life that could encourage or help someone else.

So let’s begin.

One thing God has been teaching me lately is to keep my mouth shut. I don’t share much about my personal life anymore. My life is no longer going to be gossip or entertainment for other people. Instead, I want to use what I’ve been through to share the lessons I’ve learned, in hopes that someone reading this can learn from them too.

One lesson I’ve learned recently is that not everyone will be there for you when you need them. Sometimes people only show up when it’s convenient for them, or when your struggles become something to talk about.

I recently moved, and you know what I learned? Not a single person came to help me. None of my friends. None of my family. It was just me and my three kids. The excuse I heard was, “I thought you were moving next week.” But I had been clear about the date. Whether people truly forgot or not isn’t really the point. The reality is that I felt alone.

As painful as that was, it taught me something important. I’ve started distancing myself from relationships where people only seem to show up when it’s convenient—or when my life is entertaining to them. That includes some family relationships too.

I’ve also realized that some people don’t agree with the decisions I’m making, including choosing to spend time with my husband while we work through our marriage. If people choose to walk away because they disagree with what they think God is leading me to do, then I have to accept that. My job isn’t to impress people. My job is to seek God and follow Him the best I know how.

Do I know with 100% certainty what God wants every moment of every day? No. None of us do. But I do know this is my marriage, and if my husband is genuinely changing and making an effort, I need to recognize that. I want my decisions to be led by prayer, not by public opinion.

Another lesson I’ve learned is that people are quick to point out the areas you still struggle with, especially when you speak openly about your faith.

Just because I write about forgiveness doesn’t mean I’ve mastered it. Forgiveness is a daily choice. There are people in my life who have hurt me deeply, and choosing to forgive them isn’t easy. Some days it’s one of the hardest things I do.

I’m not perfect.

I write about living like Jesus, but maybe I need to make something clearer: we are not Jesus. We are sinners who are trying to become more like Him every day. That process is messy. It involves failure, repentance, growth, and trying again.

I’ve also learned that forgiveness does not mean giving someone unlimited access to your life again.

People often confuse forgiveness with reconciliation, but they aren’t the same thing. You can forgive someone while still having healthy boundaries. You can release bitterness without restoring the relationship.

Even Jesus had boundaries. He walked away from people. He didn’t entrust Himself to everyone. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean they automatically have access to you or your children again. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is forgive them and love them from a distance.

God has been teaching me a lot lately. Many of these lessons have been painful, but they’ve also been refining me.

My hope is that as I continue writing, you’ll be able to learn from some of these lessons without having to experience the same pain yourself. If God can use my story to encourage even one person, then every difficult season has a purpose.

Love always,

Kelsey